Monday, May 21, 2012

Self-Sabotage / Changing your way of thinking.

I was so close to my goal for my birthday (just 5 days away now). It was within reach. On April 27th I was just 3 pounds away! Now it is too far away to grasp again.  I won’t reach my goal this year. I have let myself down. Why? 

I went searching for some answers and I am learning and growing from this experience.  Is it too much to ask for me to be happy with my weight again? I know I can have control over my eating and get there but why will I not allow myself to reach that goal again?  What am I afraid of?  Why won’t I give up the pleasure of food?  Yes, food is pleasure for me.  Sadly I find great pleasure in overindulging in food.  I must change my mindset on food again.  I did it before and I can and MUST do it again.  I have to stop thinking of this as a battle and a fight but simply a way of life.  I get tired of fighting and battling.  There is no way that I have the energy to fight every day but I can simply live differently each day. 

I will still work to obtain my goal but losing 11 pounds in 5 days is not healthy or probably even possible.  Most of it is water weight so I may get close but changing my thinking is what I must focus on right now. 

In searching for answers I came across some great information of self-sabotage.  Below I have copied the information and the link to it.  So for my birthday gift to myself I am changing my ideas on battling weight and food and simply choose to live a healthy life in harmony, not in a fight, with it. 

I will check back in Saturday or Sunday to let you know how my week is going.  Best of luck to all of you out there that are desiring this life change also.  It isn’t easy but to feel good and healthy is worth it!!!

You may be a victim of self sabotage if:

  • your goals tend to be just out of reach

  • you are settling for less than you really want

  • you find yourself road-blocked on the way to your dreams

Use the 5 signs of self sabotage and the following proactive tips to move past your sticking point and begin to create the life you desire.

What are you focusing on? Self-sabotaging behavior begins with a focus on what is not working or missing in your life. Pay attention to how often you speak and think about what is wrong, this includes what is not working, not right, or missing. This will only attract more of the things you don’t want.

Ask yourself what is good in my life right now? Begin to notice all the things that are working, no matter how small. You will begin to attract more of what is wanted into your life.

Where your focus goes so does your life!

Are you spending your time worrying about the future? Do you stress about what is going to happen or might happen? This is another sign of self sabotage.

Focus on the here and now. If something is bothering you, then focus on a solution. Visualize how you would like it to turn out then take action toward making it happen. Take as much action as you can in this moment, then let it go. When the timing is right continue taking further action and then let it go again.

There is nothing more you can do to help by worrying. Instead use tip number 1 and put your focus to work.

Your point of power is in the present!

3. Comparing Yourself to Others
Do you find that you constantly compare yourself to others and then feel bad? Comparing yourself to others usually doesn’t motivate, but rather it makes you feel overwhelmed or not good enough. This is a sign of self sabotage.

To overcome self sabotage- focus on you! Write out 5 accomplishments you are proud of. List 5 qualities you love about yourself. Find 10 adjectives to describe how great you are.

You are your greatest asset!

4. Worthless
Do you ever feel worthless, unworthy, or not good enough? Do you look at yourself and make excuses for why you can’t be, do, or have what you want? Seeing yourself as unworthy will keep your desires at bay.

Get in touch with your inherent self-worth. The wisdom of the universe considers you so worthy that it gave you existence. If it didn’t you wouldn’t be here. Learn to be your own greatest fan and supporter.

If you don’t value yourself, other people won’t do it for you.

Begin to value yourself and feel your self-worth by becoming your own greatest fan and supporter. Every time you accomplish something, give yourself a pat on the back. Seriously, say- great job, I am very proud of myself. It doesn’t have to be a big accomplishment, it could be getting your car washed, everything you do is valuable, begin to learn to appreciate yourself.

Here’s another:
Use affirmations. If you don’t believe in them, consider changing that belief and then put them to work for you. Look at yourself in the mirror; take a minute to really look. Then make eye contact and tell yourself:

  • I believe in myself,
  • I am inherently valuable and worth,
  • The universe applauds my life.

Repeat 5 times.

5. Living in the Past
Getting caught focusing on the past is a sign of self sabotage. It doesn’t matter if you spend your time dwelling on past failures or past accomplishments. Use the past to grow and move forward.

If there is a failure you are dwelling upon, stop. Every success has been preceded by a mountain of failures. That is how we grow, learn, and improve ourselves. Change your thinking about what it means to fail. Instead of taking it as a shot to your self-esteem, consider it part of your learning process. Every great person whether from sports, arts, science, or business knows what it’s like to fail. They also know what it’s like to brush themselves off and get back at it.

If you are dwelling on a past accomplishment and it is getting in the way, follow the same advice. Learn what you can from the accomplishment, feel good about it and then move on. Don’t identify yourself with the accomplishment. You are much greater than that.

As you let go of your past, you free yourself to fully live in the present. And the present is your point of power.

If you find yourself suffering from any of the 5 signs of self sabotage use the tips above to make the necessary changes to start living the life of your dreams.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

New Shoes

I have done about 15 miles in these shoes so far and I haven’t decided if I really like them or not.  I have never owned a pair of women's running shoes because of my very wide feet but I thought I give these a try.  They are a size 12 so the length is about right.  I am concerned if I can run the half marathon in them.  I am used to having room in the toes rather than them fitting just right. 


Guest Post: How To Lose Weight Naturally

Weight loss products have hit the market in force, promising quick and easy solutions to losing weight with a magic pill or easy solution with no hard work required. While these options may seem tempting, there is no easy solution to quick weight loss without a bit of dedication required. Pill supplements can be expensive and ineffective, or the weight goes right back on when they are no longer used. Along with a barrage of side effects, people looking to lose weight naturally now have healthy and holistic approaches to weight loss that have been proven over centuries. These are far safer than over the counter alternatives.


1) Drink Lots of Water


Drinking lots of water is essential to any weight loss plan. But, what many fail to realize is that the temperature of water can also be vital to achieving results. Cold water burns calories as it is integrated into the body. But drinking hot or warm water is also a proven technique that works by cleaning out the lymphatic system in the body, which makes fat loss work more quickly. Having a cup of hot water also serves to curb cravings and will lower the appetite for unhealthy snack foods that will combat weight loss efforts.


2) Exercise at Peak times


Choosing the right time to exercise within a busy schedule is a key to improving results in weight loss. Morning exercise routines are key elements in boosting metabolism and fat loss. However, with today’s busy regimens, morning exercise is not always possible. Exercising in the mid to late afternoon before having dinner has also proven to be an effective time of day to boost the body’s ability to combat fat and burn calories more efficiently. It is important to consistently exercise for at least half an hour to an hour every day with a wide variety of tools, integrating cardiovascular exercises with resistance or weight training to encourage the growth of lean muscle, while burning fat.


3) Eat big meals at the right times


Eating the biggest meal of the day between ten am and two pm is a centuries old technique for triggering effective fat loss. Mid day, the body is awake and primed for integrating food nutrients while burning off excess fat. By giving the body time after waking to kick start the metabolism and begin every day functions, and prior to going home and relaxing, a big mid day meal can give your body the nutrients it most needs to function efficiently while also giving it the time it needs to flush out excess fats. While fitting a large, healthy lunch into a busy schedule at work can be challenging, this proven and time-honored technique works at achieving quick results. Eating a light yet nutritious breakfast, a large but healthy lunch and a light dinner of salad or a lean protein meat provides adequate nutrition and fuel for workouts while optimizing the body’s natural ability to integrate nutrients and burn off excess calories more effectively.


4) Avoid Processed foods


While processed foods are everywhere and whole foods are more difficult to find, processed foods give a sluggish quality to the body and require far more energy to process than natural foods do. Eating processed foods continually triggers fat gain and does not always provide the nutrition needed for a healthy and balanced lifestyle.


5) Eat Healthy Snacks


Instead of reaching for the potato chips or popcorn, keep fruits and vegetables on hand for snack cravings instead. An all natural and healthy alternative to greasy snack foods, fruits and vegetables provide excellent nutrition and much needed vitamins and minerals the body needs to maintain healthy function while cutting out the hunger pangs associated with normal dieting. Also substituting snack foods with nuts, beans or seeds adds protein to a balanced diet without all the additives usually found in snack foods.


6) Focus on Greens


All green, leafy vegetables are an excellent source of nutrients the body needs to survive in a well-balanced and healthy diet. Available anywhere and with many different varieties to choose from, greens should be a part of every single meal. Adding a Romaine salad with a small serving of organic and lean meat gives the body balance, and encourages weight loss and metabolism. Often absent from the typical American diet, there are many recipes available to integrate this key, natural ingredient into any food plan. Not receiving an adequate helping of greens can cause extra cravings when the body needs nutrients it is not regularly receiving.


While a holistic approach to weight loss may seem a pricey solution to losing weight, by avoiding the miracle pills advertised in the market a healthy and organic diet is far more practical than it seems. By avoiding costs associated with many fad diets and instead focusing on a balanced and nutritious plan, weight loss is guaranteed to fit any lifestyle or budget. By maintaining a balanced and healthy diet with unprocessed foods, results are quick and noticeable and the body will be healthier overall.

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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Turn My Frown Upside Down

(Excuse the family post but hey, this is real life!)

Yesterday I woke up feeling horrible!  I am pretty sure it is seasonal allergies but I was miserable (Still hanging in there today but with a much greater attitude.).  I sent a text to Dan telling him how yucky I felt and on top of it the scale was back up and I was an emotional mess.  I was having a great pity party.  Dan is an amazing husband.  He came home and took care of me.  Just having him home made a huge difference.  He even made us my favorite dutch oven dinner.  The weather was beautiful so we ate outside.  How could I continue being sad and miserable with such selfless acts of service. I love my family and they helped put a smile back on my face even though I still felt sick. Thank you my sweetheart and kids, I love you!!!

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I am a very blessed woman to have such a selfless, kind and loving husband.  I do believe I am married to the very best husband in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD!!! 

Sorry ladies but he is mine, all mine!!!

Monday, May 7, 2012

Every Day is a Challenge



So I had a great run a week ago but everyday is still a battle with my weight and food.  The weight roller coaster continues.  I need to take back full control of my eating.  I can do this with Heavenly help.  I have done it before and I WILL do it again.

I needed some great quotes today so here are a few of the favorites that I read:



Here is my weekly picture. (Not the normal picture for me but I need to see the changes good and bad that are happening to my body and I can’t see the changes when I am all covered up.)

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